Brought into an unknown world, we cry as to express discomfort, ” where am I ? , this is not home, I don’t know this place “, we cry out , and soon, not long after, the loving touch of a woman/man who you seem to know, the one you’ve connected with for a few months calm your nerves down and you feel comforted, for the love of a parent, is second to none , ” can I trust you to hold my heart and take care of my hurt ?”
We soon find a sweet taste of love sprinkled on our tongues, the sweet taste of milk, our only surviving hope at that point in time. We soon learn to call that person , mother or father , and although this may not be so all the time , we were once at the most fragile point of our lives , nurtured by someone, loved by someone, biological or not , a human looked at you and loved you, cared for you, bathe you , took it upon themselves to help clothe you , and that person is family.
We begin to grow, and we are introduced to our brothers , or sisters or just people that have come to make life just a little more frustrating but still fun for us, lol.
The memories we share of the days we’ve laughed, the days we’ve cried , the days we’ve lost , the days we’ve found, have remained memories of a lifetime.
Family is a person , family is two people , it’s three people , family is company, they are not the ones put into our lives to hurt us , I see that they are the ones put into our lives to challenge us to eventually become strong and independent people.
I have learnt that the ability to care for your family , spend time with your family, despite anything, is a key definition of love , because , nothing hurts more than saying, ” I wish ” and knowing it’s only a wish . The time spent with these ones can never be replaced , we may have friends again when we loose some, but these will forever remain the people we first connected with , they will never stop being family.
On this day , I write to remind you , that as much as we’ve grown, as much as we are striving for success, as much as you’ve been hurt , never forget family.
Before Jesus said it’s finished and died, he did something significant, John 19:27- ESV -” Then he said to the disciple, “Behold, your mother!” And from that hour the disciple took her to his own home”.
It’s amazing that even before Jesus died , the last thing he made sure to do , was to make sure his family was taken care of .
My friends , I can not begin to share with you that I understand the pain that comes at times , the hurt , the fights , the tests , the betrayals that comes from family , yes , having a family isn’t easy , but I promise you , it’s worth it .
The best moments are shared with family , we share our greatest joys with no other than family , look back and think of the days you gotten the best results or news , the days you got into college and called up family, think about the best days of your life, the day you got your first job , and remember the ones who you shared the news with , and they rejoiced from their hearts with you, family.
And so…….
Our dear family ,
to the ones that know our darkest secrets and our deepest pain, to the ones that cry with us and laugh with us , to the ones who love us despite our imperfections , to the ones we’ve learned to love through it all , the ones we can call up at any time of the day and they are ready to help us , the ones that hurt us the most and cause us the most pain at times , the ones that go through the fire with us and can never be replaced by friends, to the ones who when we find ourselves in trouble help get us out of trouble together as though they were with us at the first instance , to the one that annoy us the most , our enemies in love, to family , this is a write-up to say , you are our deepest and most valued assets , the best gifts to us is family and we remain in love with you .
To our grand parents, our hero father, and virtuous mother, siblings of joy , best uncles, loving aunties, and great cousins, we , I appreciate you and honour you on this day.
I say thank you, for being available as chosen vessels of God’s Grace in my life .
Yours truly,
Your daughter
Sharon Paulina Boye.
23rd September, 2018.
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