P. Boye Motivations

Days passed by , weeks passed by , and I realized it was already a month . I hadn’t written anything. I apologise, please bare with me.  
However, I wondered, asking myself, what could I write?  For a while, I searched,  and I finally found one! 

  Friends, who are they? are they the ones that stood by you when you needed them the most but still left after sometime ?, are they the ones that you were there for and still, left ?, are they the ones that make you feel special, accepted, and good, just happy, even within you ? Or perhaps, the ones who when we are with it feels just right, no fights, no arguments, just happiness ? Who are they  ? The ones who support our dreams and help us achieve our goals ? Who are genuinely happy for us when good comes? Or perhaps, the ones who fight for us even when we aren’t looking ?
 
    We live our lives being affected by those we surround ourselves with. Most of the time, we fail to note that we can never know someone enough, we honestly can’t,  for when test and trials come, we meet a whole new person. However, this doesn’t apply to them  only , it also applies to you, to us.
It all just explains that we are humans, when in particular situation, we get to see ourselves. What do I mean by “ourselves” , I simply mean you get to see who you really are,  what you’re really made of, your capabilities, be it good or bad . However, most times, we let the bad overshadow the good.

The main question here is ; to what extent do these trials change or affect you ?.  How far does one change when faced with sudden happenings ? Or should I say how much is one revealed (known) when in certain situations ? The truth is you are who you feed yourself with,  if you feed yourself,  your heart,  your spirit with bad,  bad comes out and vice versa. 

I recently realised that friends influence us, I mean greatly influence us, they have a huge impact in our everyday life, the choices we make , the actions we take,  about 99% of you is determined by who you spend time with.  The moral of this is  to choose wisely, and one thing to note is this, DON’T focus on them , focus on YOU,  because you only attract who you are . So learn to first work on yourself. 
   I know you all desire particular kind of people in your lives, even I too ; true friends who are willing to stay and would not leave, friends who help us pursue our dreams , friends who would wake us up to reality when we are slacking,  we all just want friendship, the real one !

However,  I discovered something of recent; not all friendships are meant to last,  not all people that come into your life are meant to remain , some people may have treated you bad , some good , some great , some just normally , but the truth is they were all there for a reason not necessarily meant to be there forever , but for a reason .
It’s equivalent to your existence here , you’re here for a reason not meant to be here forever,  and so when you’ve achieved your purpose,  you’re done playing your part. 

 No matter how many come into your life, no matter how they made you feel , be it good or bad or really bad,  they were there for a reason , because trust me , if they never came, if they were never there,  you won’t be YOU . Don’t get me wrong , I’m not saying they have determined who you turn out to be, I’m saying their presence has made you learn something and so it’s shaped you into who you are .
Whether you believe this or not,  you learnt something from each of them and I mean each of them.

Now, here’s what I want you to ask yourself, can you be friends with you? Are you a friend ?
We all desire certain qualities in people,  but do we have them ? Are you patient with people ? Are you kind? Are you loyal ? are you a friend ?
I want to challenge you , Instead of focusing on others and wondering why they are the way they are , try and focus on you . Let’s learn to start with us. 
Remember,  you attract who you are !

Can you be friends with you?.

BOYE, Paulina Sharon.
21st June,  2017.