Dear reader,
If you’re in your late twenties, you might relate to a scene like this:
You wake up, bleary-eyed, hoping today is the day everything clicks. You grab your phone, check your emails, maybe scroll through social media, and there it is: everyone else seems to have their life figured out. You see friends who are already excelling in their careers, traveling the world, buying homes, or even starting families. And here you are, 27 years old, feeling like you’re still stuck in the maze of uncertainty.
Okay, maybe not 27… but you get my point. Honestly, you could be 30, 40, or 50, and still might not have it all figured out.
You might find yourself thinking: I’ve got so many passions, I’m not sure what to pursue. One minute, you want to be a athlete. The next, you’re daydreaming about starting a business. There are days when software engineering calls to you, and others when music or design seem like the path. You juggle all of these passions, but none seem to be the “one” thing you should commit to. It feels like you’re running in circles, trying to give everything a piece of your attention, but never fully diving into any one of them.
The Pressure to Have It All Figured Out
We’ve all been there. There’s this unwritten expectation that by a certain age, we should have our careers, relationships, and futures all figured out. We see people our age excelling in their careers, traveling the world, or ticking off life milestones and we feel behind.
But here’s the truth: It’s okay not to have it all figured out. You don’t need a roadmap with all the answers right now.
What’s not okay is to be lazy about your destiny fulfillment.
Yes, it’s okay not to have all the answers.
Yes, it’s okay to be figuring it out as you go.
But what’s not okay is to sit back, shrink, or procrastinate your way through the process.
You might not know exactly where you’re headed, but you do know you were made for something. And that means you can’t afford to coast.
This journey of life? It still requires discipline. It still demands effort. It still calls for you to show up, even when clarity hasn’t.
You don’t have to sprint, but you can’t stay still.
You don’t have to have a perfect plan, but you can’t ignore the pull in your soul.
You don’t have to figure it all out today, but you do have to move.
Because delaying obedience is still disobedience.
And your future won’t build itself.
The pressure to have your life mapped out can feel overwhelming, especially when everyone around you seems to know exactly where they’re going. But I’ve learned that it’s not about having a perfect, linear path. It’s about being okay with the uncertainty and embracing the journey.
The Joy of Exploration
There’s a certain beauty in not having everything planned out. Sure, it’s frustrating, but that space of uncertainty is where growth happens. It’s in that space where we get to experiment, to try different things, and to discover new paths that we never imagined for ourselves.
Maybe you’re not meant to have one singular passion. Maybe this stage of life is about exploring, testing, and discovering new things. There’s no rush to pick just one. In fact, it’s in the trial and error that we uncover what we’re really drawn to.
Instead of stressing over what you “should” be doing, you can lean into the joy of experimentation. Write when you’re inspired. Take a class because you’re curious. Pick up a camera or a paintbrush when you feel the urge. There’s beauty in embracing those fleeting moments of inspiration and letting them guide you.
Embracing the Uncertainty
I’ve spent so much time beating myself up for not having a clear vision of my future. But I’ve realized: the real plan might just be to live the journey. And uncertainty? That’s not something to fear, it’s something to embrace.
Life is rarely a straight path. It’s more like a winding road with unexpected detours, and it’s in those detours where the real magic happens.
The more I let go of the need for certainty, the more I’m able to enjoy where I am right now, no matter how messy it might seem.
The Power of Being Present
Amid all the uncertainty, there’s one thing I’ve learned that’s been key: be present. It’s easy to compare ourselves to others and feel like we’re falling behind, but the truth is: everyone’s journey is different. There’s no rush to get to the next stage of life faster than anyone else.
So, if you’re feeling uncertain or unsure about your path right now, know that it’s perfectly okay. The clarity will come when the time is right. In the meantime, just keep going, keep trying new things, and trust that things are unfolding the way they’re supposed to.
Final Thoughts: The Journey Is Yours to Create
Maybe you don’t know exactly what you’re doing right now. And maybe that’s okay. You don’t need to have everything figured out by a certain age, and you don’t need to follow the same path that others seem to be on. Life is messy and uncertain, and that’s where the growth happens. Don’t hold back, take the risk.
If you’re struggling with uncertainty, know that you’re not alone. We’re all figuring it out as we go, and there’s no right or wrong way to do it, except you do life without JESUS (I mean it❤️) The key is to keep showing up, exploring your passions, and trusting that the God will lead you to where you’re meant to be.
What are you struggling with right now? Leave a comment below – I would love to hear how you’re navigating this journey with me!
With Love,
Sharon Paulina Boye
April 23, 2025
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