P. Boye Motivations

Who can I run to when all hope is lost apart from Christ?

Hey hey, welcome back😄.

Talking on trust in relationships, have you ever been at a point in your life where everything seems to be crashing and at that point, you really realize how alone you’ve been all these while?
You don’t even know who to tell what to because you’re not sure if they are there to hear gist or to just be your friend, genuinely.

Who can you trust at the weakest of times in your life?
Who is your burden-bearer?
Do you have that one person, the one who stands by you no matter what?. When the world is laughing at you, mocking you, who’s that one person you can trust that will be there to hold you and say, here am I, cry on my shoulder?

Wait, before we think about Christ, who is, of course, the ultimate burden bearer, do you have a friend I mean, who has an actual body, that you can call on?
See ehn, the truth is, no matter how many times people break your trust and all, there’s a human part of everyone that wants just one friend/friends, to always fall back to. It doesn’t have to be 6 people, some people are really just looking for one person😿.

Now, that one friend may most likely be one’s spouse. “But what if I am not married yet or I married wrong?”, you may ask. My answer, ” Honestly, the best person to fill that role is your spouse that’s why you should pray well alongst that line BUT it’s very possible to have those people as your friends. Just like Jonathan and David, The one’s who are there even during the storms”

Please, let’s drop the mindset of, “I don’t need people, God has my back “. Yes, God does have your back, but He also put you on earth to fellowship with others. As much as you should be careful not to surround yourself with bad friends, don’t isolate yourself from the entire world.

Prayer point: God, please surround me with burden bearers; friends who will be there with me during the storms and even in good times. Genuine friends, that stick closer than relatives.

I want to share what I learned from the crucifixion of Jesus, with you.

Jesus had 12 disciples, 12. Out of those 12, he had 3 who were closest to Him; Peter, James, and John.
Out of those 3, only one was with him at His point of death or perhaps the most painful time of his human experience, John.
Where did the rest go?
Does that mean they were not his friends or that they were bad?
No, in fact, they all played significant roles in his life, during his lifetime and after his death.

However, there was one person there with him during the worst time, John.
He was there even to the point of one of Jesus’ last sentences before He died as told in the scripture, John 19:26-27,” When Jesus saw his mother there, and the disciple whom he loved standing nearby, he said to his mother, “Dear woman, here is your son,” and to the disciple, “Here is your mother.” (NIV).”

Many at times, we are quick to ask another, “are you trustworthy?”, we are quick to drop friends who may not seem trustworthy, etc. This is not wrong, I mean you need to be surrounded by the right people.
I believe however the first question to ask should not be directed outside but to oneself.
In all of this, I ask myself first,” who can run to me when times are hard? Am I a burden bearer to someone else? Am I trustworthy? “

Jesus was first a friend to all before John was found by His side at His worst time.
Matthew 14: 25-31 says, “Shortly before dawn Jesus went out to them, walking on the lake. When the disciples saw him walking on the lake, they were terrified. “It’s a ghost,” they said and cried out in fear. But Jesus immediately said to them: “Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid.” “Lord, if it’s you,” Peter replied, “tell me to come to you on the water.”  “Come,” he said. Then Peter got down out of the boat, walked on the water and came toward Jesus. But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and, beginning to sink, cried out, “Lord, save me!”
Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. “You of little faith,” he said, “why did you doubt?”

Jesus was there for Peter.
Now I know all these may just look like, “oh, okay, Bible story”, but look out for the word,” immediately” when Jesus saved Peter. His friendship stood alert even during fear. So I ask, what kind of friend am I? What kind of friend are you?

As much as we can pray to God to help us have burden bearers as friends. Let’s also pray, ” God, help me be a burden bearer to others”

If you want to have trustworthy friends, be a trustworthy friend.

Wait, I know there are times you have been trust worthy over and over again and still, people keep stabbing you at the back.
That hurts, I agree, but try not to let the actions of others change the reality of who you are.

Writing this to you may look easy also, reading it, the important thing is to ensure we do the things we ought to. In our schools we need friends, at work, we need friends, in the church, we need friends, in our families, we need friends, in our best times, we need firends, at our lowest, we need friends.

The person you can run to other than Christ is, “a friend”. Find someone today, pray someone into your life today that you can trust and will be there always and vice versa. They exist.

Boye Paulina Sharon
3rd April, 2020