This post is inspired by my brother, whose birthday we celebrate today. Happy birthday, bro! Watching your journey – from navigating the uncertainties of job searching to boldly stepping into entrepreneurship, has been nothing short of inspiring. You’ve weathered the storm with resilience, and it’s a joy to see you thriving. This one’s for you.
Dear Royalty,
Do you know what’s worse than failure?
Silence.
Not dramatic rejection, not even ridicule. Just… silence. The kind that lingers like fog in your chest when you click “submit” on yet another job application and hear nothing. The kind that wraps around your heart when people ask, “So what are you doing now?” and you smile, shift your feet, and change the subject.
And so you wait.
In the morning, you rehearse answers. In the afternoon, you scroll LinkedIn, measuring your worth in someone else’s career milestones. At night, you try to pray, but your voice cracks midway because deep down, you wonder:
“Is God ignoring me?”
I once read that the wilderness is not the absence of God, but the space between His whisper and His instruction. I didn’t believe it until life cornered me.
The endless “We have received your application.” Then come the follow up rejection emails that read, “We regret to inform you…” — again. I whispered, “Lord, am I that forgettable?”
And suddenly, like a drop in still water, I heard, “I haven’t forgotten you. I’m building you.”
It didn’t make sense at first. How do you build someone by breaking them? How do you prepare someone through silence?
But in hindsight, I realized something: doors are not always meant to open when we knock. Some doors are waiting for the person to be ready – not just the résumé.
Maybe this is where God begins to ask different questions:
- Can I trust you to still worship when you have no income?
- Will you value people when you finally rise, or forget them?
- Do you want a job for purpose, or just for applause?
The job isn’t the blessing. The you who becomes after the waiting is.
Think of Jesus.
For 30 years, the Son of God made furniture. The Word that created galaxies spent decades in obscurity – learning obedience through the ordinary. We don’t preach about those 30 years, but they shaped Him.
Would you be okay if your greatest preparation happened in silence?
Dear Royalty,
This season may not look like victory, but it’s not defeat. It’s pruning. God is not delaying your life, He’s designing your depth. If He gave you that position right now, could you sustain it with character, not just competence?
So if no offer has come, don’t let shame find its way into your heart. You are not behind. You’re just hidden. And sometimes, hidden is holy.
Let me leave you with three thoughts to hold onto when the weight gets heavy:
- God is your Source – not HR desks or CEOs.
Jobs are channels, not sources. Your help comes from above, not from polished cover letters. - Some doors will not open because they are beneath your calling.
The rejection you cried over may have saved you from smallness. You’re being preserved, not punished. - Faithfulness in waiting is a seed.
Serve. Learn. Love. Grow. The job may come later, but the person you become in the waiting is the real miracle.
You’re not overlooked. You’re being prepared.
And when that call comes, when the offer finally lands, it won’t just be a job, it’ll be a divine alignment. You’ll know why it took this long. And you’ll see why it was worth every unanswered email, every interview that ghosted you, and every night you cried into your pillow.
Until then, breathe. Bake something. Take certificate courses. Take a walk. Apply again. Rest again. Laugh when you can. Cry when you must. Like my brother, you can start a business! And in all things, remember:
You are still chosen. Even here.
With you in hope,
Sharon Paulina Boye
May 29, 2025
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