Dear Mom and Dad,
As I transition from a little girl into a young woman, I find it necessary to express my gratitude to both of you. While society often celebrates mothers, I want to take a moment to acknowledge the invaluable role fathers play in our lives in this post.
Today, I find myself capable of expressing these thoughts because of the consistent nurturing I have received throughout my life. It is high time I shed light on the immense impact parents have on their children. This influence is undeniably significant and irreplaceable. So, to every father out there, this message is dedicated to you.
Dear Fathers,
You are indispensable. Your presence, actions, love, and guidance shape our lives in profound ways. While you may be busy providing for us, please know that your children, present and future, need you more than you may realize.
I write this with immense gratitude to my own father, who has been a pillar of strength and love since my earliest memories. Your protection, affection, and unwavering love have meant the world to me. Growing up, your love has bestowed upon me a sense of confidence and security that nothing else could replicate.
Fathers, if you are taking the time to read this, it is crucial to recognize the importance of those seemingly insignificant moments—those embraces, conversations, shared laughter, and family outings. Investing quality time in us, opening about your own experiences, dreams, and vulnerabilities, is what we truly yearn for. We long for your presence, not just your financial provision or disciplinary actions. While you may provide us with the best education, nothing can parallel the value of a father teaching us practical life skills like changing a car tire, cooking a meal, or riding a bicycle. These are the memories that we hold dear and cherish for a lifetime; TIME SPENT WITH YOU.
The dynamics of a parent-child relationship mirror those of any other meaningful connection. While the desire for shared experiences like travel and outings exists, what truly matters is simply having you there. I recall countless instances where my father would set aside his phone, even amid a busy meeting, just to affirm that in that moment, I was his priority above all else. Let me assure you, my father was not one to indulge me excessively; his discipline was firm, and perhaps I will delve into that further later. However, even in moments of correction, I never doubted his love. Though tears may have been shed, I always knew deep down that I was cherished unconditionally. I never had to question my worth, through my father’s eyes, I knew it and still do; I am LOVED, CHERISHED AND WORTH IT ALL.
Dear Fathers, thank you for providing us with shelter. Though I may not possess everything, through the little work I undertake, I have come to realize the challenges of earning money. Fathers and mothers alike, you are doing a commendable job, and for that, we are truly grateful. While we may exhibit stubbornness at times, please refrain from becoming angry and abandoning us to navigate life on our own. Instead, guide us through it. We will always look up to our fathers for support and guidance.
This is crucial to emphasize because as children, there inevitably comes a stage where we may rebel and push boundaries, perhaps even disregarding your role momentarily. But please, understand that this phase is temporary. I implore you to recognize it as such. I cannot begin to recount the countless individuals I have spoken to who harbour resentment toward their fathers, some of whom carry grudges that extend across generations simply because these transitional phases were not navigated well. I understand that you are doing your best to exercise patience, but please, do not cease loving and disciplining us when we rebel. There exists a delicate balance to be struck, dear fathers.
“Let me paint you a heartfelt picture, dear fathers. I come to you with a plea, straight from the depths of my soul. Please, I beg of you, take a moment to truly feel the weight of your words and the tone of your voice, especially in moments of frustration or anger. Each word you utter, each inflection in your voice, etches itself into our hearts, leaving scars that may never fully heal. Please, in those moments of turmoil, resist the urge to lash out with insults. Do not turn a blind eye to us, and never let the heat of the moment drive you to speak ill of us. Understand that how you correct us, the tenderness or harshness in your approach, shapes not just our behavior, but our very sense of self-worth and belonging. Your love and guidance are our lifelines, and we need you to wield them with compassion and understanding.”
Furthermore, I must say, it is crucial to go beyond merely spending time with us; engage in meaningful dialogue. Regrettably, many children grow up without truly KNOWING their parents. Open up to us, involve us in your journey, and protect us from harm’s way. It is hard to overstate the significance of this connection. Share your victories, your defeats, and your ongoing struggles with us. We might not grasp everything, but communicate with us, nonetheless. We crave both light-hearted and profound conversations with you. Inquire about our lives, including who we are dating and the type of people we are attracted to. Introduce us to your friends, those who have stood by you through thick and thin. Allow us to know you just as much as you seek to know us.
Also, one undeniable truth is that by demonstrating genuine love and respect towards your children, daughters particularly, you empower them to recognize and not settle in receiving the same treatment from others. Puberty can be an especially challenging time for young girls, and fathers, your support during this phase is paramount. Boost her self-esteem, impart upon her the value she inherently possesses, and help her cultivate healthy relationships. Your influence during these formative years can profoundly impact her choices for a lifetime.
Remember, we learn not just from what you say, but from what you do. If you wish for us to grow into responsible individuals with strong character, consider the example you set. Instead of relying solely on punishment to discipline us, show us how to live by embodying those principles from a young age. Be the role model you want your daughters to marry and your sons to emulate. Your actions speak volumes, and they shape the foundation upon which we build our lives.
Finally, pray over us (your family). As the head of the home, we rely on your spiritual fervor. It is not just about ensuring the doors are locked against physical threats; it is about safeguarding us from spiritual laziness and nurturing fervent faith. Do not just provide physical protection; provide spiritual covering as well. Teach us about Jesus, show us Jesus, sing of Jesus—we need Jesus.
To my beloved father, thank you for being both firm and compassionate. Your discipline has taught me valuable lessons, while your love has shown me what true care looks like, your example as a husband and father inspires me daily. Your love for Mom reassures me that genuine, enduring love exists.
I will not close without saying this: Mom, thank you for choosing not just a partner for yourself but a wonderful father for me. In a world full of challenges, expressing my gratitude to both of you brings me immense joy.
Thank you, Papa B, and Orumama, your love and guidance have shaped me into the person I am today, I will forever cherish you both.
Dear Fathers,
Your family needs you (Healthy , happy and strong not just financially)
We appreciate you; your presence most especially and
We are grateful for the sacrifices; spiritual, physical, mental, emotional, and financial .
With love and gratitude,
Sharon Paulina Boye
P.S. Dad, remember the time you would buy me crowns as a little girl? Those memories are etched in my heart forever. Let us make more of them.
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