Hey guys! We are back with another Friday pepperoni Chicken !🎉🎈.
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Ouuu😍, is it just me or did Valentine’s day come and not go? I mean till today, the love and gift sharing is still on going for some!
Hmm, for some others, their bank account has been laid to rest after that day 😂.
🎶Song of the day – Wholeness by Young Ecclesia worship.
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Last week, the beautiful Anthonia Blessing shared her story on relationship , the responses were very well appreciated.
Today, she’s back to give you the full gist on the topic ” Trusting the authority of God in your relationship “.
Ladies and gentlemen, Miss Anthonia👑
“They are,
- You have to be properly single before you can be properly married: For years, as I waited on God (I still am), I prepared for marriage; I would clean my house daily, learn to cook well, learn good morals, developed new skills; everything being a good wife. I was always listening to advice, sermons on marriage, wishing I had someone. I never appreciated the time I had to myself.
I never prepared myself and studied how to be single. I thought I was waiting on God, but really, I was waiting on love that matched all I wanted love to be. That’s why when he came, doing everything I had prayed for, I rushed in. Like guys, I dived into this pool.. I was a low-key despirado.
I realised I was never genuinely happy being with me, I wasn’t single by choice/ because I had understanding, it was just because I wasn’t approached by the kind of guys I like.
I didn’t enjoy my own company, I couldn’t spend 10 minutes with myself, I always wanted to be with a friend, or perhaps try to distract myself with a movie etc. As a matter of fact, I found myself boring. I couldn’t even treat myself to lunch( just me). I hated walking alone. I was never whole! In real terms, I depended on people to bring me joy.
So, guys, before you dive into marriage or relationship, ask yourself, am I properly single?
Are you single physically and emotionally or you have 7 boyfriends that you’ve married already in your head? I’m not saying it’s wrong to like, I am just asking, are you properly single? The truth is, once that person comes, you really never get this time anymore.
- The second thing I wish I knew before I expressed my feelings to this guy is, “try not to take yourself too seriously or play smart like you know it all”
See ehn 😂, guys, there’s no book on marriage I didn’t read within my reach, no sermon I didn’t listen to. They were so helpful, I thought I was the,”OGA” of relationships. I was even giving advice to those in relationships while being single and my advice helped them.
- Sounds like God knew I would feel this way and so he wrote this scripture for me, “Therefore, whoever thinks he is standing securely should watch out so he doesn’t fall.” 1 Corinthians 10:12
I thought I knew it all, it made me think I was so ready for a relationship. I was so sure I had found the one, I didn’t realize I was slowly beginning to lose interest in God. Yes, we prayed and all, but the only time I prayed and served God was when I knew He (the guy) would be with me or when I am praying concerning him (the guy). Every other walk with God was not as important compared to my to be husband. He was my priority, hence I began to fall because I wasn’t careful enough to think twice or seek advice on things.
God had to step in Himself… He saw me falling, sent me people to help correct me , but I thought I knew it all, I kept ignoring, until that night 🌚. I heard Him directly.
Please, always seek counsel before you get into this thing called,”relationship or situationship”.
Don’t just seek, but be willing to listen to them that are good. I sought counsel, I did, I knew it was important to, but did I listen ?
Lol, cause at the end, I got broken due to ignorance.
3. Songs of Solomon 8:4,’ Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe – and you’re ready”
Oh, I wish I knew this, it would have saved me from the heartbreak I felt after. I am still healing.
Guys, I knew I wasn’t ready, I knew and I told the guy, but I didn’t know not to excite love.. Or arouse it in the first place.
I wish I knew there was a right time for love and in that time I would/should be ready..
You may ask, how do I know when I am ready? You’ll know when the time is right. Yes, there is a time for love. God knows you have feelings and He will satisfy you in due time. However, please be patient.
Hmm….
As at that time, all I knew was, “I wasn’t ready”. I was sure of it but I didn’t see the harm in stirring up love. I was so attracted to this guy, I awakened love at the wrong time.
Songs of Solomon 8 continues, saying”
6 For love is as strong as death, its jealousy as enduring as the grave.
Love flashes like fire, the brightest kind of flame.
7 Many waters cannot quench love, nor can rivers drown it.
If a man tried to buy love with all his wealth, his offer would be utterly scorned.”
Do you now see why it’s key not to arouse love so strong, many waters can’t quench it? Do you see why it’s important to know the times and tag along?
My sisters and brothers, please do not arouse or awaken love before it’s time and you’re ready.
If you have already, like me, I can confidently tell you, take this situation to God, for He says, ” If you are tired from carrying heavy burdens, come to me and I will give you rest-Matthews 11:28″.
I did this, and it’s working for me.
- Falls back to what was said last week and that is, “they may be Good to you, but not good for you “.
Seriously if I knew this, I would have been more careful before expressing my feelings. This guy was amazing, in Nigerian terms (He used to burst my brain ). He wasn’t perfect like I said, but the way he expressed himself, made me love his imperfections, him, even more.
He was great to me, good to me. He even introduced His whole family to me and I did to.
Unfortunately, He wasn’t for me, yes we clicked, we connected. However, it was a life time commitment we were about to jump into and honestly, I’ve just realised, we were not good enough for each other to spend forever . Maybe friends, but definitely not husband and wife.
Marriage is not for one week,4 months or 22 years.. It’s forever, till death. After we cut things off, I realised so many things about myself, and him from reading our previous conversations. One day, I literally said to myself while reading our chat again, ” this would have been a great mistake if I had continued with it”.
When we were texting and all in love, we were so perfect to each other, we most times, not always though, but we most times over looked our wrongs. He would say somethings I didn’t like, or perhaps vice versa and just cause we want to be understanding and accept each other for who we are, we were slowly spoiling each other.
So yes, I wish I knew him more enough to know that love was just not for us, we perhaps would have made perfect friends instead. I’m sure if we were friends first before diving fast into feelings, we would have been able to express ourselves better and know one another better.
Lol, this doesn’t mean you friend zone everyone oooo.
So yes, good to you, but is he / she good for you, not just for today, but forever ?
- I wish I not only asked God but also waited on His confirmation before expressing my feelings.
I asked God, I prayed to Him concerning it, but I never really waited for His confirmation. Or should I say obeyed it, (perhaps He said no, but my feelings didn’t want to accept. I wanted a positive reply by all means ). I believed God loved me so much, He would never say no to my happiness.
Meanwhile, he was saying no all this while to avoid my unhappiness.
Brother/ sister, please don’t just say you’re waiting on God or looking for prophetic word. Open your eyes and ear to see/hear signs/words from the persons patterns and also.. If/when God gives replies, directly or through His people , please obey! It may not be convenient now, but it will save you from inconvenience tomorrow.
Don’t just ask for God’s leading, when he says, “no, wait or it’s not time”, we ignore or get upset. Why ask for His say then if you don’t want the best answer ?
6. Love/attraction is not enough to sustain marriage. Proverbs 24:3-4, says ,” 3 Through wisdom a house is built,
And by understanding it is established;
4 By knowledge the rooms are filled
With all precious and pleasant riches.
Let’s assume this guy was the right one. Do you know we would have still missed it , because we didn’t build our, ” house” with wisdom but based on physical attraction and what seemed to be love at first sight.
Our foundation was already shaking. We didn’t even understand ourselves, we didn’t know if our purpose were aligned. All we knew was, “I like you, you like me, we are both born again, and like the idea of spending forever with each other.. Let’s love on each other “. We rushed into arousing love, we never sought wisdom on how to even go about it well. Hmm, but for God. Perhaps, by now, we would have broken up or enter into marriage and be miserable because we lacked wisdom, knowledge and understanding on what God, the master of setting up relationships really wants.
I believe, it’s good we didn’t begin the relationship. Unfortunately, we aroused the love though.
7. Finally, I wish I knew that there was something called,” counterfeit”. It’s not just based on money, but even in relationships, counterfeits exit. This brother I loved so dearly acted very much like my prayer request.
Not to say, He came into my life to fake love or anything. I’m saying, even vice verse , I could just have been a look alike of what God really had for him but not the one.
They may look like the one, but hey, look again… They just might be a counterfeit.
The original is more valuable. The original one is on the way. Please, wait.
You may enter a supermarket with money, get everything you want, only for you to get to the counter and they say they can’t accept your money, because it’s fake. Would you like it ?
Dear Christian brother and sister, wait for your original so you are not disappointed in the end, thereby, wasting your time.”
I hope and believe you learnt something.
Please, if you have any questions, drop them in the comment section. Don’t forget to please like, comment, follow me, share, and please apply these lessons. I believe and pray, they would help prevent mistakes.
See you soon👑
Boye, Paulina Sharon
21st February, 2020.
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